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    Can Therapy Really Help Marriages?

    I often have couples come in for the first time, exhausted, stressed, beaten down and worried.  Worried that therapy will not work.  Worried that this will be a waste of time.  That their relationship is destined to fail.  No hope.

    I expect couples to come for counselling feeling exhausted, stressed, beaten down and worried.  Usually we wait until we have almost cracked before getting help.  We use counselling as a last resort.  So the big question is.. can therapy work?  How successful is marriage counselling?  Can relationships be saved?

    My answer applies to 90% of couples.  The answer is YES!  But no way in heck if both partners don't give 110%.  Marriages are tough.  Really, really tough.  Throw in some problems, communication chaos, bickering, fighting and the awful "4 horsemen behavior styles" those tough marriages just became even harder! 

    In therapy, I break things up.  Big problems are just a bunch of small ones squished together.  Trying to fix the big guy is overwhelming and daunting.  But taking it by smaller pieces is a lot more manageable.  Communication, commitment and trust is what we need to get the relationship to be built on.  So we start with that and move on to how exactly we resolve conflicts, what really must be solved and what can we do to help the other live out their dreams. 

    But absolutely nothing will change in your marriage if you just rely on the 60 minutes or 90 minutes or whatever time we spend together.  It's the hard work that both of you must do in between our weekly sessions.  The homework.  The assigned tasks.  Some of it will be uncomfortable.  Some of it will be enjoyable.  Either way, it's there to help you and help your relationship.

    If you are struggling in your marriage, don't wait until you are totally stressed out or when you feel that living in hell is better then living in your home.  Get some unbiased help.  Talk with someone who can help you and your partner take responsibility and make the necessary changes to be happy.  Trust me, it can be done!

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