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Counselling couples and individuals through marriages & relationships

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"Therapy  When Life Sucks!"

  • Nobody Cares What You Think!

    "Nobody cares what you think!". A statement I often use in my therapy office with clients. I feel like I should explain. Husband comes home from work after a very rough day. He walks in and slams the door behind him. Shouting, he says "I can't believe him! He pulls me into his stupid office and tells me that if I am late one more time he will fire me!!" As the wife stands there watching her very disgruntled husband blow off steam, she has a choice to make. An opportunity to add to the emoti…

  • Don't Play Ping-Pong With Your Wife!

    When we have a group of friends over at the house, out comes the ping pong table or the air hockey. A few good hours of macho fun and celebratory remarks all leads to a lot of laughing and bonding. Do you play ping pong with your wife? (or husband!) I mean, ping pong without the table. Rather, in your relationship. Here, let me give you an example: Husband: "Oh man, I had such a bad day at work today!" Wife: "Oh yeah, me too! The kids were just awful all day. I am exhausted!" or... Wif…

  • What Do Struggling Marriages Have In Common?

    With 90% of my appointments are with couples, I have met with many. Different cultural backgrounds. Different ages. Different life experiences. And each couple comes to counselling with different concerns and issues. However, I have noticed some common themes among couples who are struggling to be happy. The one word that seems to apply to most unhappy relationships is the word FEAR. Think about it for a sec. It's not frustration. It's not anger or disappointment, although those emotions ma…

  • Stop Saying These 2 Words!

    Making changes in the way we communicate with our spouses or loved ones is hard. Really hard. In the heat of the moment, we tend to say anything to prove our point. There are 2 words that we absolutely need to stop using today! Not tomorrow or not next week but eliminate it from our vocabulary starting right now. Using these 2 words will make those arguments even harder to resolve. And could just end up ruining your marriage. So, what are the 2 words that I speak of? Here they are, and pl…

  • Life Dreams.  What Are Yours?

    What do you want to be when you grow up? How many times have you been asked that question as an adolescent or young adult? Likely, many times. But how about now? What do you want to be? What do you want to accomplish? Where would you like to go? What hero would you like to meet? For me, one of my life dreams has always been to walk the streets of New York city! I always wanted to, but never really imagined it ever happening. Couple years ago I had the opportunity to do just that. I ju…

  • Can Therapy Really Help Marriages?

    I often have couples come in for the first time, exhausted, stressed, beaten down and worried. Worried that therapy will not work. Worried that this will be a waste of time. That their relationship is destined to fail. No hope. I expect couples to come for counselling feeling exhausted, stressed, beaten down and worried. Usually we wait until we have almost cracked before getting help. We use counselling as a last resort. So the big question is.. can therapy work? How successful is marri…

  • I Love You. Will You Marry Me?

    As I sit here about an hour to go before ringing in the new year, I sense there are a lot of nervous guys out there looking at the clock, palms sweating, thinking about what is about to take place. At midnight we ring in the new year. For some, they are also ringing in a proposal to their girlfriends. "I want to spend the rest of my life with you! My love, will you marry me?!" Over the next several months there will be a lot of preparation for the wedding day. The cake, the dress, the music…

  • A 'Must Do' For All Marriages!

    This one simple thing that you can do with your partner each week could save your marriage! It's easy, only takes a few minutes and can protect your marriage. Not married yet? Perfect! Start today! It's called Couples Connect. Or the Marriage Meeting. Or Lovers Lane. It's up to you to come up with a better name than me! It's a weekly meeting that the two of you have. It's a set date and time, say Wednesdays at 8pm. It can be done at the kitchen table, on the couch, laying in bed, it doe…

  • Re-marrying Your Ex?  Why Would You Do That?

    The idea of re-marrying your ex probably would not go over too well with your family or friends. "Are you crazy?! Did you not learn the first time?!" Well, those responses are quite natural, and probably is in your best interest from their point of view. However, statistically speaking, guess what? Your odds of having a successful marriage to your ex is actually greater than any first time marriages! Look at these numbers... first time marriages end in a divorce about 50% of the time. Sec…