Couples Counselling for Burlington, Hamilton, Oakville
Helping couples connect and repair.
You love each other but
you didn’t sign up for this.
Everything was great! You had so much fun together, talking was easy and life goals was a perfect match. But as time went on things started to change. Now it seems all you do is argue. You rarely ever sleep in the same room anymore and when you do, there is absolutely no intimacy whatsoever. You are living like roommates. You are not on the same page about anything.
You are tired of this
and want need change.
You need to find hope that staying in this relationship is the right thing to do.
You need to feel loved, cared for and a priority.
You need to feel like a team, connected and happy.
I have helped others, I can totally help you!
I have worked with hundreds of couples through some really difficult times.
constant arguing and bickering
problems with the in-laws
blended family nightmares
miscommunication and assumptions
lack of talking and closeness
past hurts and resentments
and much, much more…
Therapy with me is…
interactive and easy going
direct and to the point
focused on the relationship
Therapy with me is not…
checking off boxes or reading from a script
misguided and useless talk for an hour
talk therapy, a few nods of the head and then “see you next week”
Introducing a new way of
doing couples counselling.
Combing RLT with Gottman
Terrance Real, founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the Gottmans (The Gottman Institute) have effectively moved couples from misery to joy, from disrepair to repair. Through using a careful combination of the two, I help couples make necessary changes quickly and effectively.
No useless therapy lingo. No checking off boxes. And no beating around the bush in endless conversations. Instead, you get real help, real quick. Direct, no-nonsense approach to help the relationship. To help you learn how to be relational and to accept closeness from your partner.
Marriage Restart Program
Marriages that are so conflicted, so toxic it requires a complete restart. This is what I call Marriage 2.0. Six to twelve months of counselling that progressively makes changes to something that is more healthier, more connecting and more intimate. We will work through childhood experiences, relationship trauma, resentments and broken trust. Through the use of the sessions and homework, couples begin to rebuild the marriage they always wanted but didn’t have. We will use Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and Gottman to work through it all and re-establish (or perhaps for the first time) a well connected, relational relationship.
Discernment Counselling
Age old question - Do I stay or do I go? Family members typically say to stay, friends say to go. You are stuck in the middle of it. You may feel totally lost not knowing what the heck you should do. Years together, fear of being alone, fear of making the wrong choice. I get it. I can’t promise you that you will not feel this, but I can help you feel at peace with whatever decision.
Discernment counselling is to help couples decide whether or not to invest/reinvest in the marriage or call it quits. Or, third option, just keep going and not do anything.
Sessions are limited, up to maximum of 5. They take place weekly with an end goal: decide to stay, decide to leave, decide to do nothing.
You will want a therapist that specializes in couples.
Just like you wouldn’t go to your family doctor if you have serious issues with your heart, right? Or, you may want to hire a plumber to fix your toilet rather than a general contractor, right? Marriages and relationships are complex and requires help from someone who has extensive knowledge and experience in working with couples.
My Promise…
is to do my very best in getting to the root of the problem that is causing the separation, conflict, lack of connection and then provide real, usable techniques and strategies that will encourage you both to get closer together, repair and make lasting changes.
Words of gratitude from past clients…